Insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein
“The Victim doesn’t have to take responsibility for the victim’s behavior.” Anonymous Victim
We do not have to be a German physicist to know the wisdom and the insanity of the first quote. The second quote is indeed foreign and not without controversy, as it doesn’t fit the status quo.
I submit to you that 49 States in the U.S. have continued the insanity of perpetuating intimate partner violence using the same old “tried and mostly failed methods,” including lack of judicial and law enforcement communication, AND placing blame and responsibility on the victim, time and time again such that it hurts her/him over and over and over again!
The how and why consists of apathy, desensitization to violence and not holding offenders accountable at any level, such that they know exactly “how to work the system.” It is a vicious cycle with few making it out with any sense of self, dignity, or humanity.
A light at the end of the tunnel was forged by a very insightful Police Chief named Marty Sumner, overseeing the medium-sized city (154,000) of High Point North Carolina. Beginning in 2009, Chief Sumner wanted to address the most troublesome problem in his community, of repeat offenders perpetrating verbal and physical abuse on their partners, “running through the judicial mill like a mouse on and wheel” and, at times, escalating to homicide. His community deserved far better. But, how to do it? Consulting with Professor David M. Kennedy, Director for the Center for Crime Prevention and Control at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City. In fact the centerpiece of this model which came to be known as the High Point Model, stemmed from a paper called “Deterrence and Crime Prevention: Reconsidering the Prospect of Sanction.
With the able assistance of researchers from the University of North Carolina and team members in High Point at every level, consisting of law enforcement, victim advocates, prosecutors, nurses, social workers, victims and others , they have seen amazing results. They have totally revolutionized the system by at its essence making offenders versus victims responsible for the follow-up that comes after abuse giving advanced notice with harsh consequences and zero tolerance levels while prosecuting batterers for other offenses along the way as part of the process.
Consider this :
1) Re-arrest rates In the first two years of implementation re-offense rates using this deterrence program were only 9% per 1.000 + perpetrators as compared tov a 20-34% range typically found elsewhere.
2) In High Pont, since 2009, homicide rated dropped from 33% to 6 % (1 in 16) which were IPV related using the deterrence program.
It was an illuminating experience to have the opportunity to interview Chief Sumner and his colleague Victim Advocate, Shay Harger of the Piedmont Family Services in Guilford Count , N.C. This program compliments the Victim based Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit- EAA conceived and created by the late Susan Murphy- Milano.
Listen to Podcast
- Intimate Partner Violence PSA’s by Amy Robinson
- The evolution of the High Point Model- a deterrence regime
- The Victim’s Point of View and an intimate partner’s journey without the deterrence program
- Protective Orders, contact and reality
- ExpIaining the components and “what happens after the first call”
- Notification letters – A model from Hudderfied England
- Number one call for service and how it plays out in time, phone calls and less serious crimes
- The cycle of violence – “A family of origin “– Desensitization
- “If he’s doing this in public, what is he doing at home?”
- Susan Herman, Victim Advocate and Author
- Community Involvement: “Continued Contact”
- Continuous training including Lexington Police – North Carolina
- Victim advocates need to partner with all community partners
Selected Questions from the “Interrogation Room
- Can they protect victim’s safety by really controlling the offender?
- What were the “excuses” and why did they persist?
- What responsibilities do victims have using the deterrence program?
- How do they get the message across using additional charges and police monitoring?
- Which charges count with the “Al Capone Treatment?”
- Can violence be deterred by “face to face “messages?
- What is meant by “meeting them where they are”?
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I was nominated to join the Blog Hop by award winning author Amy Susan Crohn. Her first book, DYING TO LIVE: Running backwards through cancer, Lupus, and chronic illness was a finalist in the MEMOIRS (Overcoming Adversity/Tragedy/Challenges) category by Next Generation Indie Book Awards. She was a featured author at the 2014 Book Expo America in New York. Accomplishments which to aspire! Catch up on Amy’s website and be sure to read her blog.
I was also featured on last week’s “Hop Stop” at ImaginePublicity, a social media marketing agency who has helped develop my skills in social media as well as marketing my new endeavors. Through my association I have been able to be introduced to some of the country’s leading victim advocates and others who are tops in their fields surrounding the rights of crime victims and the judicial system.
What am I working on?
I am a blossoming author in the professional sense, but, in reality, I have been writing since my teens, and that’s a LONG time ago! I am a mad, passionate writer and practice my craft everyday through my blog entries, in-depth research blogs which showcase issues and guests on my national radio show, Shattered Lives. I’m in the process of expanding my expertise in my forthcoming first book.
We are all products of our past and I bring a rich tapestry of experience prior to becoming a crime victim in 1981 when my father was murdered. I’m also the survivor of over 50 surgeries during my lifetime. Luckily, these experiences molded me into the person I am today, happy, very healthy, and are the basis of my nickname “LadyJustice.”
As a homicide survivor and advocate for many causes with an insatiable intellectual curiosity, my main interest is in the non-fiction crime genre. However, due to the myriad of colleagues I’ve met along the way, and the increased exposure to so many aspects of crime victims and their rights, I have also included others as closest to my heart, such as persons who go missing.
It’s difficult to keep on track at times, for I want to veer off into territory about which no one else has written. This is the root of my passion, for my writing to be unique and cutting edge as often as possible versus mundane ho-hum stuff.
I have created a niche market service for crime victims unlike anyone else, a custom tailored Vicitim Impact Statement writing service available in a tiered package. This addresses a need in that victims can be often left to their own devices at the most vulnerable and emotional time in their lives, unable to understand a judicial process that seems stacked against them and their needs. My consultation service creates a victim impact statement for court or for a Board of Pardons & Parole.
How does my work differ from others of its genre?
My passion for crime story telling knows no bounds. I can always make “something” out of a few facts given my divergent thinking skills. Sometimes I employ what I call the ”Stone Soup Method”. There is a more detailed method to my writing which includes how to effectively market the crime which I have outlined in a presentation called “Marketing 101 for your Crime.” YES, you do have to market it as a crime victim in order to obtain the proper exposure. When writing about crime, these are some of the questions I ask myself:
- What is personally interesting to the writer?
- What is unique or unusual?
- Is it related to current events? (Does it need to be?)
- Is it historical or nostalgia based?
- Does it have heart, human interest?
- Is it “just another crime” or are there elements that make it more intriguing?
- Is it readily transferable to written or audio format?
- Will the topic have “staying power”- longevity?
- Is the topic controversial, provocative?
- Will it offend others…Do you care?
- As the writer, do you have a personal stake in the topic, and does that make it better or worse?
- Can other elements and information be pulled in to increase audience appeal?
What differs is I always try to tell a story by painting a complete picture, by using a variety of social media sites in an interesting manner, and using creative language with a sense of humor.
Why do I write what I do?
My writing has personal relevance to me and a larger audience, because it is intriguing and unique, and it needs to be discussed in the context of creating an awareness. In addition, I enjoy breaking down the barriers of “taboo topics “ with the potential for helping large numbers of readers listeners such as in Defining Suicide Healing and Grief.
How does my work process work?
I tend to follow my heart, along with my personal experience when it comes to choosing subject matter, but I’m mindful of the following:
- Explain the relevance up front
- Use a “hook” to capture attention
- Be original – No “copy-paste” stories
- Credit others- Use references for excerpts and other material used to illustrate your message
- Humanize and personalize
- Tie it together- beginning, middle, conclusion
- Begin and end on a positive or provocative note
- Be creative (i.e. chose quotes or short narratives to “capture the mood” and enhance your material
- Don’t use bad language; The use of other language can say it just as effectively
- Pair your story with a graphic that “says it all”(non-copyrighted or with permission)
- Respect copyrighted material
- Circulate “respectfully” to other social media forms
- Diversify your message
- Connecting and sharing posts
- Inclusion of questions at the end when relevant
Thanks for the opportunity to introduce my life as a blogger which has served as a “springboard” for many other opportunities! I so look forward to what’s on the horizon for “LadyJustice!”
As she relates the harrowing story of her missing and murdered sister in her book A Child is Missing, author Karen Beaudinwill share with readers how she has turned a family tragedy into not only a quest for justice, but a learning tool which she uses to teach law enforcement agencies about investigating criminal cold cases.
An author who is working on her sequel, Karen is also a dynamic speaker appearing at conferences and organizations all over the country.
The Legacy of Leah Toby Roberts and the “On the Road to Remember Tour“ with the CUE Center for Missing Persons 2014
“There are no good-byes, wherever we are, you’ll always be in my heart”. Anonymous
GONE MISSING at age 23! Leah was an adventurous young woman from Durham, North Carolina who was inspired and grieving. If this combination was flirting with disaster only Leah, her perpetrator(s), and perhaps the well honed experience of Monica Caison, Founder of the Community United Effort (CUE) Center for the Missing would know in their heart of hearts.
Leah Roberts’ story is not a story in the sense of entertainment, rather, it is a true account with certain known facts, but also shrouded in mystery, possibilities, hypotheses, innuendo and lots of unsubstantiated speculation. The fact that CUE Center volunteers decided to “form a caravan” on a grueling 14-day trip to retrace Leah’s route and inform the media of all those who were missing while performing this search, is the heart and soul of the “On Road to Remember Tour” and the reason for this blog.
What is the Road to Remember Tour? In the Words of Monica Caison:
“On the Road to Remember, National tour ” is an awareness campaign focusing on missing persons cases that have gone cold or have not received appropriate media coverage on the local level – much less the national level.. The tour, which travels through many states annually, provides that attention. Each year particular regions of the country are selected with “more interest growing “along the way.
In all cases of missing people, it is vital to inform the public of the missing person’s circumstances quickly and to disseminate that information to the media and the public. In most cases where details are released immediately to the public through an organized campaign, the public brings forth information that aids in the investigation and or the location of the victim. The media plays a significant role in getting the word out on the behalf of the missing person and should be recognized as a vital resource to any investigation.
Interest in many of the cases we have featured in previous tours has been renewed. The media have learned about local cases they were unaware of; case investigations have been renewed, and searches conducted. Information has resulted in new leads in some cases, and has even helped identify an unknown decedent and in 2008 solved a cold case of twenty-eight years. Finally, with each tour, some of the missing persons featured have been found through various efforts. This is the main reason the Cue Center conducts the tour despite the toll it takes on our all-volunteer staff.
It is the belief of the CUE Center for Missing Persons that all investigations, the public, volunteers and the media should work in collaboration on cases involving missing children and adults; until this happens, their will continue to be cases of the missing labeled “cold” or “inactive.”
WHAT IS A RALLY STOP?
A rally stop is a place that is pre set by anyone who wishes to host one for suggested missing person(s). Once a location is secured CUE will inform the host of time and date of arrival. Each stop is one hour and a half long for whatever program the host wishes to have and feature; this is the time to bring an awareness to your community of missing persons.
Returning to Leah Roberts:
Events and known facts will be listed here and perhaps some of the “theories” if only for the purpose of creating legitimate leads, jogging memories or “growing a conscience;”
- Vital Statistics: Caucasian Female; DOB – 7-23-1976; 5’ 6” 130 pounds; sandy blonde hair blue eyes;
- Distinguishing Marks: Pierced ears, dimples, Surgical scar on right hip, metal rod- femur –secondary to previous car accident
- Habits- Lifestyle – Vegetarian, smoker, Fluent Spanish speaker, strong southern dialect;
- Leah spent much time at Cup O’ Joe’s Coffee House
- One person on-line had this to say about this spot on Hillsborough Street: “Well, I spend my Saturday afternoons at Cup A Joe on Hillsborough Street. I sit in the back and smoke cigars and work on my laptop. To me, it’s comfortable and the coffee is strong and the cookies are good, but the clientele can be a little weird. They are interesting to look at, though.” (Driving distance from Durham to Hillsborough is 14 miles). This may have been the correct location;
- Leah dabbled in poetry, and was influenced in outlook at that time in her life by poet, Author, and Journalist, Jack Kerouac. His public persona and his talented works were a contradiction in terms. His 1951 book ‘”On the Road” no doubt inspired Leah as she set out on her adventure to “find herself and her true calling in life after many losses. (From Biography.com: “On the Road,” a barely fictionalized account of these road trips packed with sex, drugs and jazz. Kerouac’s writing of On the Road in 1951 is the stuff of legend: He wrote the entire novel over one three-week bender of frenzied composition, on a single scroll of paper that was 120 feet long.” Jack died in 1969 of alcoholism and an abdominal hemorrhage at age 47.)
When Last Seen:
- Wearing several pieces of gold, diamond and gem jewelry including 14 carat gold earrings, .3 caret ruby stones, 3 rings on her right hand, 14 caret white gold ring set with .45 carat emerald cut diamond with 2 .07 carat baguette diamonds. (Jewelry may have belonged to her deceased Mother)
- Leah left college in Durham, North Carolina during her senior year –Year 2000;
- She left on a cross-country trip on March 9, 2000 and arriving om the west coast in just three days;
- Leah did not share her specific plans (in true adventurous spirit), but did notify her roommate that she was not suicidal;
- Her 1993 white Jeep Cherokee was found down an embankment wrecked without her as driver or passenger ~ 90 miles north of Seattle; The jeep was located on a logging road in Whatcom County, Washington (setting from a Kerouac novel) nine days after she left North Carolina;
- Belongings found and identified: Cat Food, guitar, compact discs, checkbook , movie ticket stub, and $2,500 tucked in the pocket of a pair of pants, credit card and driver’s license,
- Other Observations: No cat was located or signs of foul play, blankets covered the broken windows (as cover from the elements “for someone”);
- Reportedly she spent just $100.00 in eight days of travel;
- Sightings: A witness supposedly observed Leah and called in a tip from at a Texaco gas Station. The man claimed he and his wife observed her 30 moles from the scene of the crash. She was disoriented and did not know her identity. He abruptly ended the call, perhaps out of panic. Police feel this tip was credible. Reports of the Investigation Discovery show, “Disappeared” revealed that her Jeep may have been tampered with– to accelerate on its own;
- In a Foothills Gazette.com article, Monica Caison is quoted as saying, “She could have been abducted as she walked out of there or that she ran into foul play and they staged it.”
- “Theories” & Speculation: Picked up by a passing motorist while injured and disoriented on Mount baker Highway with an unknown assailant driving her vehicle where foul play ensued; Abduction & Kidnapping; Leah “staged the crash and decided to start a new life”; Leah wrecked her jeep, hitchhiked to get help, and was kidnapped by someone, Leah wrecked her jeep, hit her head, and is alive with some sort of amnesia.
Leah was kidnapped sometime before her car crashed, and the kidnapper crashed her car.
- Leah told two men at a bar-restaurant at lunch she was travelling alone; The perpetrator is a mechanic who tampered with her car and fled to Canada with-without her; She spent the night “in nature” and was removed from the car; A sexual sadist was involved as there was no robbery. And on and on…. In the past, Leah’s sister, Kara, stated, “Leah was a young woman who was lost. You know by the time Leah was 22 she had lost both of her parents and here she is on the verge of graduating from college and I think she just really felt lost and didn’t have a lot of direction and I feel like she took this trip as a soul-searching trip…I think she just needed to go and get away to clear her mind.”
- Investigating Agency
If you have any information concerning this case, please contact:
Whatcom County Sheriff’s Office
Det. Mark Joseph
Whatcom County Dispatch Center
Tour Reviews from previous years:
…….. “a success, a blessing, “a perpetual voice for missing persons everywhere.”
“This group of compassionate people who work harder than I ever imagined, stays on top of every detail, and at the same time, has time for the family, letting them know they are being heard, and helps in guiding them through what many have already endured first hand.” (Judi Jordan)
We honor Leah wherever she may be in 2014. We will never give up searching for her! It matters not what her reasons were to experience her adventure in the manner she did. She was a free spirit, wanting to enjoy life until evil stepped in her path and the occurrence of circumstances beyond her control. The Community United Effort stands read to take action and mend hearts all across the nation for missing persons.
I am so proud to be standing with CUE during their stop in New Haven, Connecticut this year as we honor 2014 National Honoree, Donna Ingersoll, missing from Waubesha, Minnesota since 1990.
PLEASE participate and support the Road to Remember Tour when it comes to your geographic location this year! It is vital to recognize these families and to create increased awareness such that loved ones can, at last be located and a sense of resolution achieved.”
IN THE AFTERMATH OF CRIME: For families of the missing and unsolved homicides who need assistance with completing a customized Victim Impact Statement, See link and contact me
In the aftermath of the mass homicides of Newtown, CT, I wondered how a town collectively heals after such events. We have innumerable examples from which to draw for purposes of discussion. What follows is not an exhaustive account, but a sampling of how each tragedy blossomed into positive remembrances.
The primary element, the motivation in each of these true life occurrences was that the focus was on the humanity and goodness of the victim(s) lost versus the event itself.
The Aftermath of July 23, 2007: The Petit Family Murders:
Following a rampage that included stalking, kidnapping, bank robbery, physical restraint, sexual assault/rape, torture ,murder and arson of Dr. William Petit, Jr and the three Petit women/girls, the State of Connecticut was shaken to its core. Cries for the death penalty for both offenders and an outpouring of collective grief and support were initiated by people around the globe. That one man could survive and ultimately carry on with life is a major miracle. How did the sleepy town of Cheshire begin and continue on the path of recovery?
1) Within the Cheshire playground, Bartlem Park, lined with inscribed bricks, there is one that reads, “In Memory of the Petits;”
2) Cheshire Academy: Employer of Wife/Mother Jennifer Hawk-Petit. (a former nurse), created memorial garden in her name;
3) Creation of the Petit Family Foundation whose multiple missions include the sponsoring of scholarships in the areas of women pursuing careers in science, families of violent crime and Multiple Sclerosis. (Jennifer Hawk- Petit suffered from MS); Also:
- A 5K Road Race
- A Golf Tournament:
- A “Motorcycle Ride for Justice”
- An Evening Honoring Women in Science:
- A Running Team:
- Michaela, youngest daughter of the family, began a community service project, symbolically represented and continued by the harvesting of flower seeds originally salvaged from their home garden, hence Michaela’s Garden
- A concert:
- The United Methodist Church remembers the Petit family throughout the year with special services, and floral arrangements.
- A well-known memorial garden is located at the site of the former Petit homer on Sorghum Mill Drive… The house was razed after being destroyed by arson set by the murderers. The garden is maintained by friends and neighbors and open to the public.
The Aftermath of Columbine High School:
April 20, 1999 A rampage by two crazed, depressed male students who were outcasts with a death wish with grandiose ideas to make an unforgettable impact on the world before they went down. The bomb failed, but the bullets seemingly never stopped until 12 students, and one teacher was shot dead, 21 others were injured.
- The Greater Littletown Youth Initiative: After 13 years, this group composed of school personnel. Mental health professionals, law enforcement and citizens continue to meet every Friday to discuss their children, issues and preventative measures to forestall future attacks: A strong emphasis is placed specifically on “Blueprint” programs.
- A powerful “Lie-down protest” with dozens of participants by the steps of the State Capital the day after the shootings to plead for tougher gun laws.
- Rachael’s Challenge: An outgrowth of kindness and compassion begun at the muddle school level- Anti-bullying;
- Columbine CD Producer Announces New CD Project Honoring Life of Columbine Victim:
- A new CD project has been launched by Columbine CD producer honoring the life and legacy of Rachel Joy Scott, the student who gained much notoriety from her death in the tragedy at Columbine High School.
- Honoring Daniel Welcome to the Daniel Mauser website. This site is dedicated to the memory of Daniel Conner Mauser. Daniel was taken from us in the tragic massacre at Columbine High School on April 20th, 1999.
- The 10th Anniversary of The Columbine Massacre: About 1,000 people gathered for a sunset memorial service at Clement Park, next to the school, where survivors, relatives and current students reflected on the massacre. A dove was released for each of the 13 victims as principal Frank DeAngelis read their names.
The Aftermath of the Virginia Polytechnical Institute and State University Rampage Shootings
On April 16, 2007, 32 students and faculty were killed on campus and 17 others injured in two separate attacks by a deranged student. The massacre prompted the state of Virginia to close legal loopholes that had previously allowed Cho, an individual adjudicated as mentally unsound, to purchase handguns without detection by the National Instant Criminal Background Check System (NICS). The incident prompted schools nationwide to install state-of-the-art notification systems that would broadcast warnings to cellphones, electronic bulletin boards, e-mail accounts and social media. Virginia Tech, especially, began responding to any campus threat.
- Day of Remembrance: We Remember: Organized runs, candlelight vigils, picnics poetry, music and other events have been part of the remembrance every year…
- The Annual Day of Remembrance & Website: 32 students and faculty members who were tragically taken from their loved ones and our community on April 16, 2007. They ranged in age from 18 to 76 and represented a variety of academic areas, faith and ethnic groups
- VT Engage: The Community Learning Initiative: Includes a variety of service projects and grants to inspire VT students to become part of the larger community.
- The Office of Support & Recovery was initiated after the massacre to facilitate support, commemoration activities, student alerts and provide counseling;
Assassination Attempt of Gabrielle Giffords
The Aftermath of the rampage shootings on January 8, 2011 and attempted assassination of Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords in Tucson Arizona. Six fatalities and 13 additional injured persons were targeted at a supermarket.
- Americans for Responsible Citizens – Gabby Giffords and husband Mark Kelly’s effort to advocate for responsible gun policies and decrease the power of gun lobbies. ;
- As of February 2012, the U.S, Navy honored Gabby Giffords by naming a ship in her honor for supporting the military and veterans, advocating for renewable energy and championing border security,”
The Aftermath of Newtown, CT /Sandy Hook Elementary School Massacre- December 14. 2012.
A work still in progress with gifts, donations, honors and remembrances of every variety imaginable. However a few words of caution from experts
testifying before the Connecticut Legislature on “Recovering from National Tragedies: How Schools and Communities Recover” February 22, 2013. Experts Dr. Thomas DeMaria of Long Island NY and the 9/11 Mass Homicides and Dr. Marlene Wong of Los Angeles spoke on this topic.
A couple of the many interesting points to keep in mind when formulating recommendations, and implementing policies regarding the outpouring of support and the physical environment of the event:
1) Dealing with the outpouring of gifts – It is well-intentioned, but can be a real problem and barrier to healing as schools have to rent warehouses to store the goods and figure out how to distribute equitably is a real problem as well as the increased expenses incurred. More importantly, the access to celebrities and, numerous material goods is not normal in the everyday scheme of life and should be done with care and caution.
2) It is vitally important to change the entire environment in which the event occurred (if it is not razed) such that children feel safe. Historically, they will not enter an environment where they witnessed violence. Therefore, changing the physical structure, layout, painting, making it bright and welcoming is very important for their healing.
3) If it is not changed, the scene tends to attract local voyeurs and curiosity seekers, going to the site, wanting to have their photo taken on site etc.
A sign of hope. Both psychologists felt that there is a multitude of support in Newtown and Connecticut, and that they are better suited than many small towns to deal with the aftermath. Link: