My Lily Pad

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When you are at my juncture and status in life, it can sometimes be a rollercoaster. Too often, as a single person with no feedback to rely on, I have trouble mentally balancing it all. I tend to lament about my multiple responsibilities and simultaneously think that things aren’t happening quickly enough.

Sometimes, when you have climbed the first, second, and third rung up the ladder of success, you think to yourself, “I’ve definitely paid my dues. It’s been so long at this 24/7 journey. I have sacrificed much, spent oodles of time, effort, energy and money. Why hasn’t “X” happened yet?”

It’s during those times that I can’t see the forest for the trees because I’m too close to it. In addition, my goals have changed over time. I’ve never wanted to be the Oprah of Crime or the person on the talk show circuit. That’s when a trusted person, who has also been along for the ride, steps in to provide objectivity and remind me that there has been tremendous progress and that there were never any promises made of instant or guaranteed success no matter how hard you work! This last part is a bitter pill to swallow, for I have succeeded all my life with dogged perseverance, drive and resilience.

Having an online presence of any importance is indeed an adventure that is constantly changing, most often without an end destination. I now realize through trial and error and a lot of guidance, that if you can’t ride the wave, maybe you shouldn’t surf!

When I embarked on my public relations- social media partnership in 2010, I knew something about marketing in terms of event planning but the rest was all new to me, especially social media. What should I expect from a publicist?

I was flattered that I was taken on as a client with ImaginePublicity, and that my talents were recognized. It was cool to have a publicist and the fact that I didn’t have to be famous to deserve one! In fact, I wrote a little satirical blog imagining what the role of a publicist must be, called, Life in the Cockpit at Imagine Publicity.

I was now in the company of high profile activists, advocates, authors and more.

Fast forward to 2017. When I scan the landscape at ImaginePublicity, I see many permutations of Donna R. Gore on a weekly, monthly,  and daily basis. I’ve grown in many areas of social media, written hundreds of blogs, published my first book about homicide in an anthology series, created my national radio show with a quality 5 year track record, actively participate as a Connecticut State Outreach Coordinator for the Cue Center for Missing Persons.  I’ve done book signings, newspaper interviews, presentations and speaking engagements, all which I have proudly pursued in the name of creating a better path for others!

Recently, I looked at my journey from this perspective and I think I have a great lily pad in comparison to where I started in 2010! I would never try to say I’m top frog in the neighborhood, for that’s not my goal. However, I know that I’m someone who has achieved great heights from my present view on the lily pad.

Should I be content? No, for I am a voracious learner with an intellectual curiosity for diverse life experience! In the meantime, I will try to enjoy my lily pad as it is for now!

Thanks to all who have helped me along the way!


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The Endless Pursuit of Something

Many of us want to be productive. We don’t want to miss an opportunity in life, can never seem to slow down, just because. Maybe it’s the workaholic gene, I don’t know. When I compare myself with my siblings and how we operate, there are vast differences. It’s not bad or good, but different.

Conventional wisdom says less stress, less heart disease and a plethora of other medical maladies. But, that is also somewhat determined by genetics as well. Just look at former comedian George Burns, he died at age 98, smoked 10 to 15 cigars per day for 70 years including second-hand smoke. What a great set of genes! However, for those of us in the middle of the Bell curve, I estimate we will not be quite as lucky as George burning all of those cigars.

Is This You?

 

If we are perpetually spinning our wheels, sometimes through no fault of our own, what can we do?

1) First of all, disengage in the race. The RoadRunner and Wile E Coyote just NEVER gave up!

2) Secondly, if your roost is permanent, find like people and play with them often. If your roost isn’t permanent, you can do this as well by carving out time occasionally, if you find a commonality. I’ve been told and researched the Myrtle Beach MeetUp.  However, trying to browse and get true feedback, while getting through the security was impossible and finding a group that wasn’t mostly athletically based or “”too senior focused”  was a real challenge for me. I want to know what I’m committing to before I commit. You could not get access unless you signed up. Maybe I’ll try again someday, for it is part of my future. I think a friend who is already in the system is in the best position to assist.

3) Scale down your projects such that you spend less time in your endeavor. Even if it is your passion, it doesn’t need to be 24/7. If you are a crime sleuth, and solving crimes is a hobby, realize that taking time out to do other things is not a betrayal. I was really worried about someone I met who sacrificed everything in her life in order to keep the case alive!

In 2013, a former Los Angeles homicide detective shared with The Guardian that, “Every year detectives solve anywhere between 60-70% of the cases, but only about 30-40% are from that calendar year. The rest of cases, which make up the difference, are from the previous years’ cases.

Knowing this information up front, taking a few hours off will not be seen as disloyal by the family you are helping, if there is a family, or the memory of the victim.

4) Pursue an old hobby again. As I need more physical activity even with a permanent disability, I have thought of resuming a former pastime of years ago, bike riding with a special adult tricycle. It looks like this, now with gears:  

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However, there is a transport issue with this kind of bike. At my Connecticut condo, there is no safe terrain to ride, nor to store it. At my Myrtle Beach condo, there is also currently nowhere to safely store it. But, I will continue to pursue this. There has to be a way!

5) Distract yourself by changing your former tried and true habits with new ones. A simple example is that the limited TV watching I do was replaced a few weeks ago. Rather than my nightly dose of ‘Law & Order,” I discovered computer access to some HGTV shows and even the “Great British Baking show” which is truly fun!

6) Learning the fine art of relaxation. There are a number of ways that work for many people. Admittedly, I have failed at finding my “inner peace” through meditation. I cannot relax my muscles due to spasticity throughout my body . My theory (or my excuse) is that it carries over to my mind.

Massage is wonderful, and I had many sessions years ago. However, the per session rate in Connecticut is, on average $100.00 per hour, too pricey with my other financial responsibilities. And, just in case you are wondering, this profession is not universally covered by health insurance, as is physical therapy.  Soothing music. This one is easy to do, but just puts you “in the mood” for a little while.

7) Find a buddy, I have a few work buddies, but in my off hours, family nor friends have had any of my same interests for several years.  This has always been a challenge with being single, without children, and not relating to everything family style.  I’m still hoping to find this situation.

8) Travel – Ahhh! Yes! I used to be the “Queen of Cruises” prior to buying a second property! I still love it! Relaxation, culturally, intellectually stimulating, pure escapism! Any vacation is fine with me!  One particularly discriminatory experience on a cruise, out of the nine cruises I’ve participated in, still is somewhat traumatic. But, my fondness for them overall doesn’t waver.  I’m not really fussy, a short road trip will do too! I just have to convince others I am a good travel buddy! I really am! In the meantime, I don’t let it deter me from solo travel. I have perfected it to a science.

9) Sleep, Sleep, Sleep! At times this too is a luxury! I have to share that a few years ago I often couldn’t sleep through the night. But, who knows, good diet and supplements may help now.  According to the well credentialed WebMD site, more sleep can help you in the following ways: better overall health, lower risk of injury, contribute to a better sex life, improved memory and concentration, stronger immunity and, believe it or not, even weight control! See this article for details: http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/9-reasons-to-sleep-more#1

Now, I just have to take my own advice! Ahhh ,Ladyjustice is always a work in progress!  How about you? As the RoadRunner would say, Meep, Meep!

References-

http://www.cigaraficionado.com/webfeatures/show/id/The-Ultimate-Cigar-Aficionado_6004

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/jul/25/homicide-detective-lapd-daily-life

http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/9-reasons-to-sleep-more#1


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To schedule Donna R. Gore for your next conference, seminar or event, please contact ImaginePublicity.Phone: 843-808-0859 or Email: contact@imaginepublicity.com

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