The Endless Pursuit of Something

Many of us want to be productive. We don’t want to miss an opportunity in life, can never seem to slow down, just because. Maybe it’s the workaholic gene, I don’t know. When I compare myself with my siblings and how we operate, there are vast differences. It’s not bad or good, but different.

Conventional wisdom says less stress, less heart disease and a plethora of other medical maladies. But, that is also somewhat determined by genetics as well. Just look at former comedian George Burns, he died at age 98, smoked 10 to 15 cigars per day for 70 years including second-hand smoke. What a great set of genes! However, for those of us in the middle of the Bell curve, I estimate we will not be quite as lucky as George burning all of those cigars.

Is This You?


If we are perpetually spinning our wheels, sometimes through no fault of our own, what can we do?

1) First of all, disengage in the race. The RoadRunner and Wile E Coyote just NEVER gave up!

2) Secondly, if your roost is permanent, find like people and play with them often. If your roost isn’t permanent, you can do this as well by carving out time occasionally, if you find a commonality. I’ve been told and researched the Myrtle Beach MeetUp.  However, trying to browse and get true feedback, while getting through the security was impossible and finding a group that wasn’t mostly athletically based or “”too senior focused”  was a real challenge for me. I want to know what I’m committing to before I commit. You could not get access unless you signed up. Maybe I’ll try again someday, for it is part of my future. I think a friend who is already in the system is in the best position to assist.

3) Scale down your projects such that you spend less time in your endeavor. Even if it is your passion, it doesn’t need to be 24/7. If you are a crime sleuth, and solving crimes is a hobby, realize that taking time out to do other things is not a betrayal. I was really worried about someone I met who sacrificed everything in her life in order to keep the case alive!

In 2013, a former Los Angeles homicide detective shared with The Guardian that, “Every year detectives solve anywhere between 60-70% of the cases, but only about 30-40% are from that calendar year. The rest of cases, which make up the difference, are from the previous years’ cases.

Knowing this information up front, taking a few hours off will not be seen as disloyal by the family you are helping, if there is a family, or the memory of the victim.

4) Pursue an old hobby again. As I need more physical activity even with a permanent disability, I have thought of resuming a former pastime of years ago, bike riding with a special adult tricycle. It looks like this, now with gears:  


However, there is a transport issue with this kind of bike. At my Connecticut condo, there is no safe terrain to ride, nor to store it. At my Myrtle Beach condo, there is also currently nowhere to safely store it. But, I will continue to pursue this. There has to be a way!

5) Distract yourself by changing your former tried and true habits with new ones. A simple example is that the limited TV watching I do was replaced a few weeks ago. Rather than my nightly dose of ‘Law & Order,” I discovered computer access to some HGTV shows and even the “Great British Baking show” which is truly fun!

6) Learning the fine art of relaxation. There are a number of ways that work for many people. Admittedly, I have failed at finding my “inner peace” through meditation. I cannot relax my muscles due to spasticity throughout my body . My theory (or my excuse) is that it carries over to my mind.

Massage is wonderful, and I had many sessions years ago. However, the per session rate in Connecticut is, on average $100.00 per hour, too pricey with my other financial responsibilities. And, just in case you are wondering, this profession is not universally covered by health insurance, as is physical therapy.  Soothing music. This one is easy to do, but just puts you “in the mood” for a little while.

7) Find a buddy, I have a few work buddies, but in my off hours, family nor friends have had any of my same interests for several years.  This has always been a challenge with being single, without children, and not relating to everything family style.  I’m still hoping to find this situation.

8) Travel – Ahhh! Yes! I used to be the “Queen of Cruises” prior to buying a second property! I still love it! Relaxation, culturally, intellectually stimulating, pure escapism! Any vacation is fine with me!  One particularly discriminatory experience on a cruise, out of the nine cruises I’ve participated in, still is somewhat traumatic. But, my fondness for them overall doesn’t waver.  I’m not really fussy, a short road trip will do too! I just have to convince others I am a good travel buddy! I really am! In the meantime, I don’t let it deter me from solo travel. I have perfected it to a science.

9) Sleep, Sleep, Sleep! At times this too is a luxury! I have to share that a few years ago I often couldn’t sleep through the night. But, who knows, good diet and supplements may help now.  According to the well credentialed WebMD site, more sleep can help you in the following ways: better overall health, lower risk of injury, contribute to a better sex life, improved memory and concentration, stronger immunity and, believe it or not, even weight control! See this article for details:

Now, I just have to take my own advice! Ahhh ,Ladyjustice is always a work in progress!  How about you? As the RoadRunner would say, Meep, Meep!



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