Another milestone is occurring this week; the 34th anniversary of my father Donald Gore’s murder. There’s no easy way to say it. In searching my mind for what to write, what might inspire others to carry on with their journey, I struggle with each passing year. Some of the bad memories have faded away to oblivion, other images have remained in infamy.
In this struggle, I realized that if I cannot say something new or different, it’s not really about my dad anymore, it’s about the mission of serving others in his memory. The circumstances of the crime and the myriad of errors that occurred remain the same. However, there are always new challenges and new people to assist.
(My previous blog relates the circumstances of my father’s murder if readers are unfamiliar: History can only be written by the survivors….)
Actually, I have two milestones here; April 17, 1981, my father’s “death anniversary” is the first milestone. However, a much more celebratory, yet bittersweet, anniversary is the two-year anniversary of the parole hearing for the perpetrator that occurred on April 24, 2013. A day to remember for me and my family was captured well by Dr. Laurie Roth on her national radio show the same evening; the good, the bad, the ugly all rolled into one! If you’re in a similar circumstance I hope listening will provide you with helpful information.
A Victory for Victims of Crime
Of great significance was the fact that our family was able to fend off a bid for freedom for my father’s murderer for another five years AND changed State of Connecticut Policy in terms of upholding a victim’s right to anonymity. Using our right to deliver a victim impact statement was of utmost importance in this hearing and helped generate the outcome.
Dealing with a dangerous criminal face to face, and prohibiting access to a family via the internet, is of utmost importance and we are proud to be a part of positive change for other victims of crime. Victim Anonymity PRESS RELEASE 8 12 13
The entire experience was disturbing after all these years, and yet it was our shining moment in the best of ways. For her assistance to my family, thank you to Attorney- Advocate Michelle S. Cruz for the miracles that took place that day due in large part to her skills!
Who was My Father?
Donald W. Gore was man like any other. He was not perfect, but did the best he could and always provided for his family with a fierce work ethic. His claim to fame involved motorcycle championships many years running. He was on the verge of a new entrepreneurial opportunity when he was struck down forever at age 47. Today, all family members carry on each in their own ways. I say proudly, I not only survive, but thrive! For all of the professional relationships and friendships I have made over these many years, I am forever grateful.
So, if there is one lesson to be learned from murder, it is that you can carry on and even thrive with time!
We will have to “prepare with our armor and our raw emotions” for the next parole hearing in 2018, however, there is so much work to do for others in the meantime! My Dad would like that!