“We have, in fact, two kinds of morality side by side; One which we preach but do not practice, and another which we practice but seldom preach.” Bertrand Russell
Our day to day lives are so entrenched with juggling responsibilities, covering the bases, and maybe…if there’s time, a little relaxation. Seldom do we take the time to think about the burdens of our young people. We collectively think…they are young, they are resilient… As parents and concerned citizens, do we really take the time to monitor and listen? After Columbine, Virginia Tech, and Newtown, we should know that our young, more than ever need a moral compass. They are not equipped to navigate solo.
Do we wait for tragedy to strike as a gallery member of a court proceeding? If and when this happens, there is assistance I can offer regarding the creation of custom and personalized Victim Impact Statements. However, if I could trade my skills for this service and spare all teens this experience, I surely would!
In the meantime, we are left to deal with the ever increasing escalation of violence in our society…visited far too often upon our young by their peers. These occurrences are vastly underreported. Many dedicated individuals across the country and the world are forging new paths and trying to assure safe passage of trust through education and awareness. Three such individuals in Mecklenberg County, North Carolina know from whence they speak. They have lived the life of a victim of relationship violence and assist others through a variety of wonderful campaigns designed to speak to teens. Shattered Lives hosts spent a compelling hour exchanging information, ideas and feelings on the vital topic of teen dating violence. No more will there be a pass on this behavior! WE MUST help to bring it out of the shadows!
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- Announcements regarding Victim Impact Writing Service and the Two Year Anniversary Celebration of “Shattered Lives” Radio:
- Introduction to our guests
- Teen issues “swept under the rug”- Why is this such an important topic?
- What are “Respect Week” and “National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month” all about?
- Juliana Lozano – A personal story of teen dating violence beginning at age 17;
- It got worse and worse …pinching, pushing, holding me down and punching
- The cycle of good and bad. Getting back together out of loneliness
- After the baby was born an escalation occurred
- After “keying my face” with the car keys…. what happened?
- Delilah on Violence knows no age and “classic symptoms”
- Delilah asks about the system of first response when violence occurs?
- http://charmeck.org/mecklenburg/county/CommunitySupportServices/WomensCommission/Pages/default.aspx
- Love is Respect National Hotline: http://www.loveisrespect.org/get-help/contact-us/call-us
- Delilah asks, how did Juliana get her life together after leaving her perpetrator?
- Vulnerability and threats continue via text
- Shattered Lives recommend Document the Abuse to Juliana as another tool:
- Melissa responds regarding her opinion on use of restraining orders;
- Ladyjustice offers her opinion;
- Jimmeka Anderson’s role and what she does with her non-profit and the damaging effects of media
- http://www.iamnotthemedia.org/#!about/c66t
- Discussion of booking opportunities in Charlotte and other states
- Trained programmed specialists as part of iamnotthemedia.org “The media tells us what to think versus how to think”
- Melissa comments on working with parents and how to start the conversation early
- Jimmeka’s job at Imaginon: http://www.imaginon.org/About_ImaginOn/default.asp
- Increased awareness and interactions in improving the daily lives of peers
- Ladyjustice asks about incorporation of curriculum with the State Board of Education and legislation.
- Ladyjustice asks about Juliana’s status now- working on a Master‘s degree in May
- Delilah asks about how often do they see charges being filed with teen the process- advantages and disadvantages?
- Underreporting, shame, fear and feeling controlled-To file charges or not to file
- Same Sex couples not receiving protection in many states including the South. The Answer – Gay, Lesbian, & Straight Education Network- http://glsen.org/policy
- Choosing the path to report abuse of the one in three, only one third of those are reporting abuse to anyone!
- Ladyjustice asks what Melissa does in terms of referral if they chose not to report abuse to the court?
- Love is Respect Hotline and Text Services
- Call 1-866 -331-9474; http://www.loveisrespect.org/get-help/contact-us/text-service
- What is the prevalence of abuse concerning abuse geographically?
- A film sponsored by the Library at Imaginon –
- Event Type: Movies/Films
Age Group(s): Teens (12-18)
Date: 2/16/2014
Start Time: 2:00 PM
End Time: 5:00 PM
Come watch a movie “ Reviving Ophelia” in 2012 with us that will highlight the dangers of teen dating violence. February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.
- Library: ImaginOn: The Joe & Joan Martin Center
Location: The Wells Fargo Lobby - YouTube Preview: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrRtJY28ps8
- What other activities will be on-going simultaneously with the film?
- Ladyjustice asks about Melissa’s year round role? Working under An LGBT Grant for three years working with teens;
- Message: This is a year round discussion beyond February!
- Parting message from Melissa: Please help us to spread awareness in whatever way you can and continue the conversation!
- Delilah reinforces the message…
Questions for Teens, Parents and Others:
- What are the stats re prevalence of teen dating violence, and at risk teens?
- What is the National Respect Announcement about on Valentine’s Day?
- What were the “first signs-red flags in Juliana’s relationship?
- Why did Juliana think it was her fault?
- What was the turning point for Juliana in trying to seek help?
- What was the outcome regarding recommendations of a restraining order and safety plan?
- What is the importance and significance of iamnotthemedia.org?
- What is the pivotal message and mantra that iamnotthemedia.org conveyed
- What has been the outcome of the efforts of National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month since its inception in 2010?
- How many people were reached last year with the “Wear Orange” campaign?
- How did Juliana decide to focus on a degree in social work?
- What are some of the parameters that influence lack of reporting of abuse for teens in the Carolinas?
Other References: http://thinkexist.com/quotations/morality/
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Donna R. Gore 