Ladyjustice believes that the name Betty Broderick could be synonymous with snake venom. Dan, in turn, was a psychological manipulator and a philanderer. Betty exacted what she thought was the ultimate revenge… and received 32 years to life for second degree murder in the killings of her ex-husband ,Dan Broderick and his new wife Linda as they slept in their bedroom. Both used their children as pawns in a dangerous game of cat and mouse…. San Diego would never be the same…
The landscape of this case is so convoluted, so volatile, and so contentious that a blog would be pages and pages long to capture the story in its full scope. Rather, this author chooses to present a particular focus and “fascinating facts” to leave the reader hopefully wanting more… In addition, we will visit one authority on “the female narcissist.”
To begin with, Betty was not deprived in any material sense. She was the third of six children, whose father was a successful New York building contractor. Hired help was the standard in addition to private Catholic schools. Dan Broderick was the oldest of nine children, a Navy reared, strict Catholic family as well. Betty and Dan married in 1969.
Betty was very intelligent, but appeared to buy into the 1950-60’s housewife and mother fantasy, supporting her man. However, the sacrifice wasn’t worth the final outcome. So the story goes… Betty did everything a good Catholic wife should do. She climbed the social ladder with her husband’s occupational prominence as a physician and later a malpractice attorney with Betty working several jobs as the breadwinner prior to making his fortune.
Dan got bored and his eye wandered to a younger model. No one could have predicted the extent of Betty’s wrath. After 16 years of marriage, Betty was tossed aside. Dan continually lied to her regarding an affair, saying she was crazy…. Concerning his relationship with a newly hired assistant. She was told she was “old, fat, stupid and boring.” A suicide attempt… ‘Attempts at perfection to please her husband. Betty became that crazy person Dan told friends about…
Craziness…she rammed her car into his home, scrawled “God” on court documents where his name should appear, and left obscene phone messages for her 11 year old son to hear.
Support payments were hefty, after a four year ferocious court battle orchestrated by Dan, Betty was relentless in her harassment. Dan fined her $100 for every obscene word used. She was jailed and briefly committed to a mental hospital. Dan was the head of the San Diego Bar Association during their troubles, and consequently Betty had difficulty finding someone to represent her… in addition to her narcissistic personality and irrepressible anger.
Betty had four living children, one baby who died and three miscarriages with Dan. As horrible she was, Dan harassed Betty for years using his knowledge of the medical and the legal system to his best advantage.
Epstein credits refer to a California law encompassing the time period until a divorce is finalized. During that time, one of the spouses will pay all expenses incurred regarding community property. After the decree, the spouse who paid the expenses is allowed to request reimbursement for half of the monies spent, beginning at the date of separation. Reportedly, due to Dan’s legal ploys and delays, the judge took Dan’s word for the final accounting, with another $5,000 deducted at show cause hearings for use of bad language. Half of Dan’s pension -$240,000, could not be claimed until age 65. Her final award from her “multi-millionaire hubby” was less than $30,000.
Media accounts such as the “American Justice” program and the TV movie “A Woman Scorned” portray the destructive antics of Betty very heavily and paint Dan as “Mr. Clean.” However, it becomes perfectly clear that when actual videotapes are seen of the real Betty testifying, she appears self-centered and stark-raving mad…deflecting ALL responsibility toward her ex-husband. In truth, whether she was mentally ill or “crazy like a fox,” it was tit for tat with each spouse creating the toxic relationship. Dan even predicted his own murder…
BUT… What can be said about the Female Narcissist? Sam Vaknin, (author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited provides comprehensive information on narcissism and the narcissist).writing and videotaping for the HealthyPlace: Trusted Mental Health Information on Gender and Narcissism , states that most narcissists are males (75%) with very few gender differences noted.
The primary role of the narcissist is to use everything around them for their narcissistic supply.
According to Vaknin, female narcissists focus on their physical appearance-flaunting their attributes and culturally determined role. He goes on to say that they… “Secure their narcissistic supply through their more traditional gender role via taking care of the home, children, suitable careers (“the wife of___”), their feminine traits and role in society. They depend so much on the opinions of others around them that, with time, they transform into ultrasensitive seismographs of public opinion, barometers of prevailing winds and guardians of conformity. Narcissists cannot afford to seriously alienate others in the process of reflecting their false self… The very proper and continuous functioning of their ego depends upon the goodwill and collaboration of their human environment.”
Some narcissists feel guilt and wish to be punished, playing out roles such as the “bad girl” (which fall within traditional expectations) as a means of getting attention. Female narcissists tend to resort to therapy and admit psychological problems. They also treat children as extensions of themselves and Mr. Vaknin believes that female version fights to maintain control and dependence in her children, because she has limited options compared to men. Male narcissists tend to view children as a nuisance…. It’s all about filling her insatiable narcissistic supply.
After reviewing many sources, Ladyjustice concludes that:
- Dan and Betty Broderick were their own worst enemies- both flawed at minimum and perhaps sociopathic at the other end of the spectrum;
- Given Dan’s selfishness, manipulation and role as a user of younger women, Betty could NEVER have resumed her self-defined trophy wife status. She was yesterday’s news in his life;
- Their four children were the saddest victims in this entire ordeal. Split 50-50 at Betty’s 2010 parole hearing, Betty used them as pawns, never caring about how the couple’s destructive behavior impacted them. NOR did she express any remorse even after 20 years of incarceration!
American Justice Excerpt: (recording of phone conversation with Betty and her 11 year old son. This is he real Betty …. Even Ladyjustice is shocked! http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=Is8vUAUDwZs&feature=endscreen
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Her Final Fury