ENFJ –Enough Justice? No It’s Me….

Donna R. Gore, LadyJustice

This writer is on the precipice of 2013 …just like everyone else….  It’s going to happen whether she likes it or is prepared or not.  Whether the fiscal cliff will crumble and have a  terrible impact like the naysayers state, is not the most important consideration. Maintaining normalcy is not her concern…just the opposite.  The new normal has to be embraced by all no matter what happens.  We all have to create our new normal.  With some apprehension and a lot of hope and excitement. Ladyjustice looks forward to an entirely new normal in the coming year.  Yes… shake the dust off… do different things, she says… 

How do we do it?  One tool is to know you inside and out.  One such tool discovered many years ago was when this writer took the Myers Briggs (Personality) Type Indicator.

In the beginning, understanding the various parameters may seem like you have to use your secret decoder ring AND Jillian Maas Backman to understand what it all means… However, LJ is confident that even reading through various personality descriptions of the 16 on-line, you will eventually say, Ah, HAH! That’s me….The MBTI is based on Carl Jung’s theory of personality type and was developed by the mother-daughter team of Katharine Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers.

The Myers Briggs Foundation states that it can be used in relationships so that you can understand their preferences and readily appreciate differences between you and those closest to you in everyday life…. Another benefit is in use in choosing a career that is commensurate with your style and preferences, use by specific professions such as healthcare and teaching so that understanding, processing and learning styles can be appreciated and adjusted.

Ladyjustice took this test many years ago and remains true to form to her personality type (which is not absolute-just like anything) but very true to who you are on the whole….  and used the book’s 16 one page descriptions to analyze her good friends and family…to ultimately understand “why we are/act the way we do.” A fun and challenging exercise …

The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment.

“Perception involves all the ways of becoming aware of things, people, happenings, or ideas. Judgment involves all the ways of coming to conclusions about what has been perceived. If people differ systematically in what they perceive and in how they reach conclusions, then it is only reasonable for them to differ correspondingly in their interests, reactions, values, motivations, and skills.”

The MBTI instrument has a track record of hundreds of studies over the past 40 years have proven the instrument to be both valid and reliable. In other words, it measures what it says it does (validity) and produces the same results when given more than once (reliability).

Defining the Four Domains-A Primer: (16 Separate Personality Types)

Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I).

Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).

Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).

Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).



According to Ladyjustice’s Type- ENFJ-

  E: You are energized by other people or outside experiences, as your preference for extroversion (sometimes spelled extraversion) reveals. You enjoy and do well in situations where you interact with others.

  N: Intuition is like a sixth sense that lets you visualize beyond what you can see, hear, smell, taste and touch. It gives you the ability to consider future possibilities and ultimately take advantage of those opportunities.

  F: As someone whose preference is feeling, you often make decisions based on your personal values. You are inclined to move ahead without fully considering the consequences of your actions. You are sensitive to the needs of others. This makes you a caring person who likes to help people.

  J: Your preference for judging indicates that you like to have all your ducks in a row. Spontaneity may make you uneasy. You are successful when you have deadlines you have to meet because you are organized.

  • Introversion [I] v. Extroversion [E]: How you energize
  • Sensing [S] v. Intuition [N]: How you perceive information
  • Thinking [T] v. Feeling [F]: How you make decisions
  • Judging [J] v. Perceiving [P]: How you live your life

Each of us exhibits aspects of both preferences in each pair but one is always stronger than the other. Your personality type is made up of the letters assigned to those stronger preferences.

***Now… If only future employers over on Linkedin would pay attention to this and see Ladyjustice for her really important traits and match with that job…. Heaven…. (God, are you listening?)

Portrait of an ENFJ – Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition)

Ladyjustice in All her Glory- (Warts and All…)

 Traits According to her personality type…

“The Giver”

As an ENFJ, you’re primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ’s people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people’s skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ’s motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.

ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJs tend to define their life’s direction and priorities according to other people’s needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It’s natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people’s needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don’t sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.

ENFJ’s tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they’re likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they’re likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.

Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they’re able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they’re not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person’s need, they are highly likely to value the other person’s needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.

People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don’t understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they’re forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They’re very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and controlling with others.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.

So What?

Ladyjustice has seen over her 30+years of work experience that jobs are obtained and based upon a select few job skills alone.  They do not talk about transferable skills. Employers still focus on your “blankety blank” degree that you got thirty years ago that may not even be relevant anymore… What about all of the other stuff that makes you who you are?  What about what’s important for you in a work environment and a boss? Forget about it…especially in this economy… It’s pot luck re co-workers, your work environment and your boss. 

Ladyjustice is here to say that if a position and a candidate were reviewed holistically re overall mutual needs, we wouldn’t have such a poor business environment in many states…We would virtually wipe out workplace violence if we did a better job meeting a person’s needs based upon how they think and process the world. We would have more productivity and less absenteeism…

Just imagine,…we might actually be working with a majority of people we really enjoy versus tolerate…. What a concept!

So… judge me as a whole person and what I have to offer… not what I did 30 years ago, please, potential employers… I’m Much More than a resume…and so too are all of you….

Have I provoked you to looking into your type on the Myers-Briggs??  I’ll bet I can find out if I know you well… What fun! 

Happy Sailin’ into 2013… Hope you’re along for the ride with Ladyjustice or as they say, ENFJ Woman!


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