The Last Tears….. Reflections, Moving On….


Suppose it was not a stellar year for you. Suppose that it was the worst… Well… adopting hope is not an easy task. If your life was touched…or hammered by crime, if your relationship was shipwrecked….Ladyjustice is so very sorry! But sorry doesn’t change things.
It’s easier for this writer to handle change regarding crime victimization as compared to relationships. Relationships are so very hard to sustain. Do phrases like “Take it to the next level” or “Go the distance” strike fear in your heart, as it does LJ? If so, you are not alone, I guarantee it… If we are lucky, we find someone with whom to commiserate. We take time to grieve as we do when we lose someone through violence. We may even lose our own identities in the process…. However, we must re-invent and find a comfortable place to be…even when there are ups and downs. We have to find that anchor somewhere! How do we find that anchor? We have to take a risk and reach out to others….. ‘New possibilities, new people, new ventures.
It is unrealistic to think that even when trying to put things in perspective, to move on from the “stuck place” in our victimization, or our personal relationship that we will never cry again…. (As adults, we cry far too little than is healthy.) However, we frequently are acculturated not to cry, to stay strong…. What we have been through as crime victims is so overwhelming, so ever life changing that Ladyjustice cannot expect no tears. But, in moving on, we can reach out to others in the same situation to receive support and NOT HAVE TO CRY ALONE…. We need others to get through life, Lord knows…

To get on the right path to that healthier place, as the Indigo Girls so eloquently write and sing about… Please listen to the following 4 minute song and use the following links to help you gather strength:

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Transgender, Questioning, (Adults, Teens) (Find a Chapter) (Sexual Minority Youth & Family Services, National Conference) (Teens)
Homicide, Intimate Partner Violence, Sexual Assault
Parents of Murdered Children:
NC Victim Assistance Network (North Carolina)
National Center for Victims of Crime
Parents of Murdered Children and other Survivors of Homicide Victims (Michigan)
Justice for Homicide Victims (California)
Canadian Parents of Murdered Children and Survivors of Homicide, Inc. (Canada)
Missouri Victim Assistance Network MoVA (Missouri)
Homicide Survivors Program (Alabama)
Office of Victim Services (Connecticut)
American Association of Christian Counselors
Office for Victims of Crime (OVC)
Alabama Crime Victims Compensation Commission
The Compassionate Friends
Concerns of Police Survivors
National Organization for Victims Assistance (NOVA)
Intimate Partner Violence
Susan Murphy Milano
Sandra L. Brown, M.A. The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction
Pamela Chapman, iAscend Programs (Sexual Assault)
Missing Persons
CUE Center for Missing Persons
Let’s Bring Them Home:

May you find hope, help and a healthier you…..
Donna “Ladyjustice”


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