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Shattered Lives: Dennis and Faith Griffin: How Life Changes in an Instant

SHATTERED LIVES with Donna R. Gore, “LadyJustice”

Examining the effects of those who have survived violent crime and how it has impacted their lives.

Real people, real tragedy, real help.

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True crime author and former NY officer, Dennis Griffin, and his right arm and inspiration, wife Faith, are the guests for the hour on Shattered Lives.

In 1986 their lives were shattered when their vibrant daughter, Kim, was suddenly killed in a car accident. A bright 18 year old, Kim had just graduated from high school in June and was scheduled to enter college in September. On August 5 she went swimming with three other friends at a popular spot about 40 miles from home. On the way home from a day in the sun and fun, the accident happened as they neared the top of a hill. An elderly driver was coming in the opposite direction at a high rate of speed, panicked, and his car slammed into the car that Kim and her friends were riding in, knocking it over an embankment. The driver died at the scene as well as Kim.

Their lives changed by the instant loss of a beloved daughter, Denny and Faith were surely tested in the aftermath of the crash.  How did they manage to get through the grief and the pain? How would anyone deal with losing a child at the prime of her life with so much to look forward to?

After Denny retired from law enforcement he began a new career, writing. Denny and Faith, affectionately known as “Bear,” spend half their time in Las Vegas where Denny has written several books about the mob influence in “Sin City.” He’s made numerous appearances and is the host of radio shows, Crime Wire, with co-host Susan Murphy Milano, and Real Wiseguys, with former Gambino family member, Andrew DiDonato.

Join us for the hour as Denny and Faith share the aftermath of their shattered lives and the impact their loss has had.

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BELIEVE IN REAL PEOPLE, NOT SANTA


Baby boomers have a tough job… They are wise enough to know better, but not old enough to be given a pass on their deeds “because of their age.”  Baby boomers have lived through many an uprising to secure rights for women, rights for racial equality, rights for the gay and lesbian community,  the right to protest  the war in Vietnam and Watergate to name a few…

We now have pre-teens, teens and “twenty somethings“ idolizing the wrong people!  The young stars of Hollywood, fueled by tabloids, are by and large, the wrong focus of anyone’s admiration. People like – what’s her name…  the no talent career criminal hotel heiress Paris Hilton… [One glaring exception that Ladyjustice has recently learned about is a refreshing young performer named Taylor Swift.  She appears to be a wonderful role model. ‘At least for now.]

So where do we find real people? We find them in our community, in business relationships, within hobby groups and organizations. We find them through friends and at work.   Santa, as we are aware, never really came down the chimney, WHAT A SHOCK for Ladyjustice, who was born on Christmas Eve! All those little 8 year olds learning the truth, as Norman Rockwell so aptly portrayed it!

Real people are friends, give us hope and encouragement and make our flaws seem minor in comparison to say….. “PARIS.”

Ladyjustice’s “Short List” of Real People:

LJ’s Christmas list – to see the real people soon….

1)      Shirl, a good friend of LJ’s of more than 25 years, just quit her job to explore her options and future plans after some family losses.  She has an adventurous spirit, like LJ, and is off to California, Australia and South Carolina for three months.  It will be good to see Shirl again. She is a REAL PERSON!

 

2)      Ladyjustice has been chasing phone calls and e-mails to her best buddy in California, Rosie.  She is a stellar Director of the Imperial Valley Upward Bound Program. It was nearly 2 ½ years ago when LJ was dropped of at the ferry at Coronado Island; had the pleasure to experience her wonderful program and students.    Occasional phone calls are not enough.  Rosie is the oldest of 11 children in her family.  She is a REAL PERSON!  CAN’T WAIT TO SEE HER AGAIN!

 

3)      “The Brains of Imagine Publicity,” Ms. Delilah ,has been a lifesaver to Ladyjustice.   LJ has shared her whole life in an effort to re-invent her dreams and career aspirations.  LJ has sought Delilah’s guidance, pestered her endlessly with ideas and millions of e-mails and calls.  She knows more about LJ than her own mother!  Ha!  And yet, we have yet to meet in 14 months of intense association.  Such a pleasure!  CAN’T WAIT to finally meet this magician of promotions! Delilah is a friend and a REAL PERSON!

 

4)       The Ultimate Survivor of Homicide and Intimate Partner Homicide- Susan Murphy Milano.  She is a mentor; she’s someone with whom I have much in common.  She believes in me…  She’s a hard person to know at times… but very easy to care about. Ladyjustice CAN’T WAIT to meet her live and in person…after all of these months!  SUSAN IS REAL… No doubt about that!

 

5)      Monica Caison- Founder of the CUE Center for Missing Persons.  Monica is REAL PEOPLE.  She’s a diamond in the rough it seems , with a few sharp edges  designed for digging for clues for those who go missing.  Her heart and dedication is unmatched.  Ladyjustice CAN’T WAIT to meet her someday… and maybe lend a hand in some way….

 

6)      Diane Fanning- True Crime and Fiction author; Saver of souls for the unjustly convicted!

She’s a researcher and storyteller extraordinaire!  CAN’T WAIT to cross paths with her someday!  She is REAL, She is genuine.  LJ can tell… 

 

7)       Representative Gabrielle Giffords – Congresswoman and survivor of Mass Murder!

She’s a patient of many fine Rehabilitation Therapists- Ladyjustice’s former profession.

She possesses an incredible inner strength and positive attitude.  She beat the odds and survived the unsurvivable! SHE IS THE REAL DEAL! ‘CAN’T WAIT to meet her someday!

 

8)      Denny and Faith Griffin -  Don’t let that Private Investigator Mob Stuff scare you off!  These two are the most fun and genuine people in the world!  Ladyjustice CAN’T WAIT to see them again!  They are the REAL DEAL… No Foolin’.

 

I just CAN’T WAIT to be with the “REAL PEOPLE” of the world!

(‘Sorry Santa!)

 

Merry Christmas!

 

Donna

 

 

 

 

 

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Treasure or Trash? No… A Human Being

      

                 

Ladyjustice is often fascinated by the unique finds on shows such as PBS’ Antique Roadshow and the like. There is something special when an unusual item is closely linked to history. If only such respect was paid to persons who go missing and ultimately murdered as they do to their precious potential antiques!

It occurred to LJ while listening to the case of Danielle Hill Alvarado on a radio episode of Crimewire recently, that there have been far too many cases in which a person died and was literally discarded as garbage- that tragic ultimate resting place was a dumpster and/or landfill. This blogger is compelled to “shine a light” on such cases, in hopes that in some small way, others may have answers to those currently unsolved cases.  These sociopaths think nothing of others… They are skilled at “playing the game of life” without really participating. Their true talents lie in masquerade.

The Case of Danielle Hill Alvarado:

Danielle, age 21, came from a small town (15 miles south of the Texas/Oklahoma border).  She lived a small town life and was married to Jonathan Alvarado with a 5 year old daughter, Nicki.  Danielle went missing on January 24, 2010. It appears this man was an abuser from the get go and had a “history behind closed doors.” (i.e. Danielle’s statements like “It will be far worse punishment if I disobey/ don’t do X.”)  In addition, Jonathan had a history of drug abuse was a serial intimate partner abuser and was arrested for aggravated assault two months prior to Danielle’s disappearance. As told on Crimewiresire.org, Belinda’s mother is currently the guardian for her granddaughter. Belinda learned from her son-in-law’s employer -property owner that Danielle was choked to death, dumped and ultimately put in a city landfill bordering the two states!

Power and control was the status quo with Jonathan.  What harm would come to the relationship for Danielle to attend church and a baby shower with family members?  Absolutely none…  However, this is the “big event” that sent Jonathan over the edge?  Danielle’s family reportedly pleaded with her not to return home after the shower.  But, as they so often do, Danielle may have had a false sense of: She’d rather tolerate a “lesser beating for disobedience rather than a severe beating later…” Such a sad story…

The rest of the story to date is that Jonathan’s “employer-protector” seems to have divulged the vile truth to Belinda, like “dropping a bomb” and thinking nothing of it as he was her handyman and “such a nice guy!”  As Susan Murphy Milano so aptly pointed out, this woman was aiding and abetting a criminal.  Where is her conscience? Where is her sense of right and wrong?  What circumstances would ever justify a man disposing of a woman like a Kleenex tissue?  ‘Disobedience over going to church and a baby shower?  This was her husband…not a military officer.

Jonathan also made 22 cell phone calls during the baby shower and then nothing. Jonathan’s mother lied about Danielle’s whereabouts.  Immediately after her disappearance, Jonathan and his father used borrowed funds and left for Florida although there was no reason for their destination.  Police and parole officers were less than zealous about Jonathan’s unlawful exit.  Danielle was branded as a “street person”, based on the behaviors of Jonathan alone, and the police did not speak to Belinda or investigate in any meaningful way.

Good riddance to bad rubbish …wherever you are Jonathan Alvarado! Let’s bring Danielle home.

 A YouTube tribute video can be viewed at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5j3KO0_N1YY.  For further details on this story, please go to the Crimewire link at: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/crimewire/2011/09/14/crime-wire-investigates-tuesdays-900-pm-eastern-time.

 

The Mysterious Case of John Wheeler:

According to CNN News sources and Daniel Bates, a British reporter for www.dailymail.co.uk, the bizarre case of Washington government official, John Wheeler was shrouded in mystery and unanswered questions prior to his untimely death on December 31, 2010.

This 66 year old man, resident of Wilmington, Delaware, served under three Presidential Administrations including Reagan and George W. Bush.  Wheeler is credited with being the impetus behind the approval and funding for the Vietnam War Memorial. At 3:30 p.m. on New Year’s Eve, a garbage truck released his body from a truck at the Cherry Island landfill in Delaware. Prior to the discovery of his body, the facts as reported are:

  • Forty-eight hours before his body was located, John Wheeler was wandering around a parking lot looking for a car and appearing disoriented, coatless and with one shoe in the freezing weather adjacent to the New Castle County Courthouse;
  • The parking lot attendant noted that he was disoriented. When asked about his welfare, but she failed to report his unusual behavior in a timely manner;
  • The next morning Wheeler was observed walking in downtown Wilmington;
  • No evidence was located during searches of his home in Wilmington and Manhattan apartment.  Although the floor boards were removed, it “wasn’t considered it a crime scene;”
  • Background checks revealed that Wheeler’s current wife had a wealthy sister-socialite, Emily Klyce Fisher who was stabbed to death in her home in 1995.  It is questionable whether this murder was ever solved;
  • The most promising lead as of January 2011, was that John Wheeler and a neighbor were having an ongoing argument concerning the neighbor building a house on an adjacent property.  Evidently, a legal battle ensued as the addition would have restricted Wheeler’s view and Wheeler’s claim that the house was “too big for the area.”  In fact, police confirmed that a smoke bomb was placed under the neighbor’s house a week before John’s murder;
  • Police refused to comment on the manner of death but later reports indicated it was blunt force trauma;
  • Another possible motive was speculated by a blogger concerning Wheeler’s views on biological warfare.  Sources at the Washington Post revealed that Wheeler wrote a manual on the effectiveness [LJ- Or lack of effectiveness] of biological and chemical weapons.  Supposedly, Wheeler was against the use of such warfare. [LJ- Could he have been in the midst of blowing the whistle re pesticides?  Were there classified documents in his briefcase that others wanted?]
  • Still another speculative theory is that Wheeler had a form of dementia [LJ- Sudden onset disorientation would be more representative of a head injury, brain tumors, hematoma (clotted blood due to a break in a blood vessel, encephalopathy(lesions in the brain sometimes caused by prolonged alcohol abuse) and not a dementia which is typically a more gradual onset of symptoms;

 

Status of the Wheeler Case as of September 2011:

New information is limited…  However more is known about the

Timeline:

  • Two days prior to his murder, Newark police learned that Wheeler walked into a pharmacy in which he was a customer and “asked for a ride,” The pharmacist offered to call him a cab.  Wheeler declined the offer;
  • The parking lot attendant was assured by Wheeler that “I’m not drunk.”  “I’m not drunk” despite his disorientation and unkempt look, lack of a coat in 30 degree weather;
  • Wheeler told Imen Goldsborough, the attendant that his briefcase had been stolen;
  • Wheeler was seen the next day on December 30th in another office building in downtown Wilmington via security cameras as late as 8:30 p.m.;
  • During the afternoon between 2:30 and 3;30 p.m. John came in contact with several people who offered to help, but he declined;
  • Wheeler was reported to be wearing similar clothes as the previous day as well as a sweatshirt;
  • Police and the FBI are searching for the crime scene and the missing briefcase which could provide a link to the murder;
  • The dispute with the neighbor is only “one facet of the investigation.” Wheeler’s attorney said “it was not contentious, but within normal bounds;
  • Wheeler’s biographical history includes being the first Chairman of “Mothers Against Drunk Driving.” 

Was this an organized crime killing?  Denny Griffin, we need your expertise!

 

The Tragic Case of Lori Hacking:

Many readers may be familiar with this shocking case, as it appears to have occurred around the same time as the Chandra Levy, the Washington D.C. aide slain while jogging…  

As per an article by Rebecca Leung who interviewed Maureen Maher, a CBS,   48 Hours Correspondent in February, 2009. Mark Hacking was a “goofy looking dude,” who got lucky and attracted a cute woman…  Lori Hacking referred to Mark as “my big old teddy bear.”  ‘Trouble is… his actions were those of a pathological liar who weaved a pack of lies more intricate and lengthy than anyone could have imagined!

[LJ- I’ll bet Sandra L. Brown of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education would have a thing or two to say about this guy…http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com.]

Lori and Mark lived in Salt Lake City Utah and had plans to move to North Carolina where Mark intended to begin medical school.  It appears that while Mark “charmed his way entertaining children at a psychiatric hospital…and bamboozled his wife and in-laws for five years, he was no closer to enrolling in medical school than a kindergartener! His elaborate ruse included “pretending to be psychotic-walking around naked, but with shoes on.”  He also pretended to take a trip to Manhattan to interview at Columbia University-ultimately staying with a cousin.  In fact, he never graduated college.  He stopped attending classes after three years.

Mark’s deceptions were revealed when his mother called the Hacking’s answering machine, asking why he wasn’t on the enrollment list at the North Carolina medical school.  (Mom being Mom, had attempted to pay his tuition.)

Lori learned the news, confronted “the teddy bear,” they argued, he took off to a hotel.  The next day… so the story goes, Lori told friends she and Mark “reconciled things and made up.”  (At this point, Lori was five weeks pregnant with their first child.)  Hacking went through the motions (Similar to Scott Peterson) reporting his wife missing and lying about the circumstances.  Hacking claimed Lori went jogging and never returned.  Next, he made his public thank yous for search efforts and actually went mattress shopping when he was supposed to be searching.  Mark allegedly confessed that he killed Lori while she slept in bed and then… “put her in the trash” where her body (and soiled mattress) was found under more than 2,000 tons of garbage.

Douglas Hacking, Mark’s father stated that Mark confessed he felt pressure to achieve, as his brothers were high achievers… and when he “couldn’t make the grade” and knew he would disappoint his family, he began lying and subsequently eliminated his wife and child.

The Ultimate Irony:  Paul Soares, Lori’s brother, related that Lori would have continued to love Mark anyway as long as he was trying his best.

[LJ-He tried his best at the wrong thing, the most dastardly thing on earth.  Mark Hacking put his wife and unborn child in the earth.  He played God when no one has such a right!]

 

Little Somer Thompson:

Nearly two years ago, on or about October 22, 2009, Somer Thompson from Orange Park Florida went missing on her way home from school.  She was seven years old and a twin who assumed it was safe to walk home from school. Sheriff Rick Bessler reported that he had to report the tragic news that her body was discovered in a landfill.  This was a first time crime for the small town of Orange Park.

According to a Camembert County publication as of October 22, 2009, police, “rounded up known sex offenders and garbage pickers,” but initially had no prime suspect.  Investigators were trying to determine the time of death before or after the disposal of her body. 

Update as of March 26, 2010: Twenty four year old John Harrell was charged with the kidnapping and murder of Somer Thompson after long delays in the processing of forensic computer analysis with a “no rush status” by Clay County Florida investigators, which finally resulted in 55 counts of child pornography. As told by Dr. Clint Van Zandt, former FBI profiler and founder of www.livesecure.org, Harrell maintained a “secret stockpile” of child porn labeled, “Don’t lose music.” This stash was discovered by his former roommates.  Evidently Harrell had been ousted from his apartment after they suspected that he had stolen an I-Pod. [LJ thinks Harrell wasn’t the smartest of criminals as he left behind his computer and many incriminating CDs.  No doubt he was thrown out with little time to prepare.  Luckily, the 20 something roommates had a collective conscience and turned over the evidence to police two months prior to Somer’s murder.]

The Likelihood of the Crime: Pattern of Conduct & Jarred Harrell’s Culpability:

Dr. Van Zandt provides the likely scenario-factors that contributed to young Somer’s death.

  • Somer wasn’t merely snatched away from her group of friends.  She argued with her friend, ran ahead of the group and was kidnapped after her separation;
  • Previous history of child pornography viewing as evidenced by his computer files;
  • Apprehension in Meridian Mississippi and arrest for child molestation and child pornography;
  • History of suspected theft;
  • Harrell’s former residence on Gano Avenue was located near a school and near Somer Thompson’s Orange Park home. [LJ- Where were the police and Federal officials requiring Harrell to register as a sex offender?  Nowhere… because the evidence wasn’t processed soon enough, nor did an arrest occur until November prior to Somer’s murder in order to save her life! Timing and opportunity is everything -especially concerning sexual predators and murderers!]
  • As Harrell lived en route to an elementary school, he had access to groups of children and the opportunity to observe them daily.  He also no doubt observed them in the neighborhood playing.
  • Harrell may have seized the moment as Somer ran ahead from the group and easily overpowered her without being seen;
  • Harrell was in the construction trade, assisted in building a restaurant and offered to be a cook. [LJ- This makes him a “hanger-on” in my opinion, an opportunist who “changes with the wind.”]
  • Ladyjustice speculates that as a cook, Harrell would have easy access to a commercial dumpster, whose dumpsite would have been the Georgia landfill reported to be 60 miles from where Somer was kidnapped;

Somer’s mother, Diena Thompson reported on March 29, 2010, that Jarred Harrell is…“A monster. That’s all this person is,” at “Somer Jam,” a fundraising concert she organized in Jacksonville to benefit the Somer Thompson Foundation. “I’d like to take this opportunity to say, ‘Jarred Harrell, we got you, and you ain’t gettin away.”

He is now in prison facing his 50 sexual abuse charges, child pornography and creation charges, and now kidnapping, assault of a minor and first degree murder in the death of Somer Thompson.

Please view the moving YouTube video of Diena’s comments: http://pysih.com/2010/03/29/jared-mitchell-harrell/ 

 

 

The Case of Marta Jimenez:

Marta was a 44 year old hard working convenience store clerk in East Montgomery County, Conroe Texas. 

As of April 20, 2011 her husband, Luis Hernandez Jimenez argued with his wife during the previous weekend.  Accounts from www.khou.com and www.yourhoustonnews.com reported that Luis worked for the local landfill near Cleveland for the past for years.  [LJ- ‘How convenient!].  Marta’s 18 year old daughter reported her missing the day after she did not return home from work.

Police found “irrefutable evidence” that Marta was killed.  Eight Texas Equusearch cadaver dogs were used in addition to a very organized and methodical trash distribution and grid search system.   Police were given false information that Marta had gone to Mexico with a friend.  Luis Jimenez was charged with tampering with evidence and submitting false statements and was being held in the Montgomery County jail pending further charges. 

In the end, can we say that John Wheeler and Marta Jimenez or Lori Hacking, Danielle Alverado and little Somer Thompson had anything in common in life?

It doesn’t appear so…  They all lived separate and distinct lives. However, it is in death and their manner of death that they share much in common.  They were people, not trash!  I’ll bet they are best friends in heaven now.  Let us never forget them!

Respectfully told,

Ladyjustice

 

                                                                                                

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My Heart Just Expanded… Needless, Accidental Death

What Do These Women Have in Common?

In the German fairy tale, by the Brothers Grim, the King’s son recites the classic line, “Rapunzel, Rapunzel let down your (golden) hair” as there was no other way for him to climb the tower to find his enchanted lady.

‘Such a charming children’s story, such a fairy tale…. ‘Too bad it was to be a premonition for disaster and a true 2011 tragic accident waiting to happen…. This is the story of a brilliant young woman who had the promise of a very fulfilling life in front of her. However, she was struck down in the cruelest of ways – medieval almost…

Sources including the Boston Channel.com news, the Huffington Post and the New Haven Register have their versions of this sad and usual story with many facets.

Twenty-two year old Michele Dufault(second photo) was a physics and astronomy major at Yale University, originally from Schiuate, Massachusetts. Michele was described by family members as, “a living saint,” “simply brilliant, “a wonderful, wonderful kid who should be celebrated,” “a true intellectual.” A headmaster of her former Noble and Greenough School in Dedham , Mass stated: “She was distinctly humble, seemingly unaffected by her prodigious talent and academic attainments.”

On April 14, 2011, the Huffington Post reported that Michelle intended to work in the field of oceanography upon graduating. She played the saxophone in the Yale band. She also loved sports.

Michele was a meticulous researcher, according to one of her housemates, Merlyn Deng. Interestingly, her friends related that Michele “approached every aspect of her life like a scientist.” As an example, Merlyn and her friend, Alice discussed the fact that Michelle struggled to wake up every morning at 7 a.m. during her sophomore year. She problem solved this by purchasing an “enormous alarm clock” and experimented by placing it in different locations to effectively wake her up. Ultimately, Michelle settled for placement under her mattress where she felt the vibrations to help her to wake up each morning.

[Note: The Ladyjustice method- a noisy alarm clock placed strategically across the room so that LJ has to get out of bed to shut it off quickly…and not disturb the neighbors – at 5 am, not 7 am!]

Michele’s friends say she was content to discuss her achievements in science even though her discussions were “way over their heads.” But they would reply, “That’s really cool”… and she was satisfied.
Her thesis was a work in progress and concerned whether liquid helium could be used to find dark matter. [Those of us who are “physics –ly challenged” can only wonder what that means…]

She apparently had a zest for life that was very appealing to all. But it was not to be….

A Few Things Didn’t Add Up

Michele’s body was found by other students who were working in the building which housed the chemistry lab and machine shop. Her hair became caught in a fast spinning lathe – the weapon causing her death. According to the Connecticut Medical Examiner, her official cause of death was “accidental asphyxia by neck compression.”

Small metal working lathe. (New World Encyclopedia)


1) Michele reportedly had taken a safety course in the past that included instructions to tie back long hair. (Michelle’s brown hair was below shoulder length);

2) Michele assisted in writing a 60 page best practices manual for the lab/machine shop;

3) Yale’s chemistry department website claimed to have a “state of the art” machine shop” for students and staff to construct or modify research instruments.” But, OSHA found that the lathe used by Michele was built in 1962 – 49 years old and lacked an emergency stop button which would have shut off the power. In addition, the lathe had no physical guards to protect the machine’s operator;

4) No written warnings were posted; Mandatory surveys of use of personal protective equipment were not completed, nor was there documentation;

5) Safety inspections that were completed, did not include machine safeguarding;

6) “No Jurisdiction”- The U, S. Occupational Safety & Health Administration claimed that “it lacked jurisdiction to monitor this lab and machine shop because it had no employer-employee relationship.”

[ LJ- Really?? Highly skilled undergraduate students with professors and perhaps graduate student assistants monitoring actions during regular hours do not constitute enough of an employer-employee relationship for OSHA??
So, jurisdiction and the seriousness of the many safety violations doesn’t count even when someone asphyxiates herself?]

7) According to an OSHA letter obtained through the Freedom of Information Act, normally a fine would have been imposed on Yale University ….if jurisdiction existed because lack of machine safeguarding is considered a serious violation, as reported by Robert Kowalski, OSHA’s area director.

OSHA Recommendation

a) Establishing specific hours of operation for the chemistry lab and machine shop;
b) Ensuring that students don’t work alone;
c) Implementation of a formal training program

[Where, pray tell me , is the recommendation of the replacement of the 49 year old piece of equipment without an emergency stop? This type of recommendation is curiously missing from all of the articles reviewed. Do we need to take up a collection in Michelle’s memory?]

Such recommendations are not much comfort for Michelle’s family and friends, no doubt!

Coulda’, woulda,’ shoulda….

Pattern of Conduct and Common Sense

What we know about Michele, irrespective of her personality and scholarly status is:

She was always studying with few exceptions according to her friends;

She appeared to be a “night owl” as evidenced by her friends recounting her struggle to get up by 7 am;

She was found dead about 2:30 am by other students;

Her enthusiasm for her work was paramount and that others clearly had “no idea what she was talking about” said Merlyn Deng…. But their appreciation and support was enough for Michelle.

Ladyjustice remembers a handful of “brilliant scholars “in her seven consecutive years of academic undergraduate and graduate studies spanning three different settings.

You know the type….

The ‘man scholar” was a guy wearing a tweed coat and bow tie. He didn’t care that his clothes didn’t match. He didn’t sleep or eat much. He didn’t care for the usual “earthly concerns.” The women scholars were similar, in that they weren’t high fashion, no makeup. They were driven only by the project at hand and be damned with the rest of the world. If you didn’t share their vision to the same intensity, they could care less…
Please forgive this blogger, if she appears to “blame the victim” momentarily. However, another common characteristic was that for all of their brilliance, at times, such scholars seemed to lack basic common sense. After all, their brains were obviously hard wired differently than the rest of us….

If LJ may speculate a bit further…. Michele Default did have other interests which, at times, grounded her to the everyday world, such as a love of sports and playing saxophone in the band….

However, it’s not hard to imagine Michele busily focusing on her scientific work last April in the wee hours of the morning while others slept… She may have worked for several hours and skipped dinner in order to complete an experiment in a work area that may have been occupied by other students earlier in the day. (Police and the medical examiner could not determine the exact time of death or the events immediately prior to it.)

She was tired… She lacked nourishment….She was not concentrating on safety first! She did not use the common sense she should have possessed.

But, make no mistake, the major fault lies with a renown University who played fast and loose with its standards and monitoring procedures….and maybe held one too many faculty dinners instead of investing in real state of the art equipment deserving of this brilliant scholar. A modern lathe could have saved her life!

The fast spinning lathe guaranteed a quick but probably terrifying death. We are heartbroken for Michele and her family… a death so undeserved…. Coulda’, Woulda’, Shoulda..

Accidental Death Statistics

Data from the National Vital Statistics Report, Volume 50, No. 15, September 16, 2002, death statistical tables are cold … and revealing.

1)The total number of deaths reported (in the most recent report available- 9 years ago) in Michelle’s age range (15-24 years) was 14,113 or 14.4%;

2) Motor vehicle deaths comprised the highest number at 10,560 or
74.8%

3) Poisoning & Noxious Substances was the third highest incidence and accounted for 1, 160 accidental deaths or 8.2%.

Michele’s death didn’t appear to fit any category listed. But, perhaps it would have been jotted down in the statistical column labeled, “Unspecified Non-transport Accidents” which included 648 deaths at the time, ranking at 4.6%. We all know after reading this story, that Michelle was far more than a “statistic on a page” and she had the potential for greatness!

Ladyjustice asks, what is the Moral of This Story?

Well, all of you lovely ladies with long flowing hair….. Including all of you in the land of the living – Hillary, Susan, Cher, Susan, Gloria, Aphrodite, Rapunzel, etc.

When necessary, Tie Your Hair Back, Damn it!
(Do it for Michelle, if not for yourself)

Ladyjustice

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The Legacy of The Petit Family Foundation

(“Three Angels” Petit Family Memorial Garden)

 

Some enchanted evening; you may see a stranger,
across a crowded room; and somehow you know, you know even then,

That somewhere you’ll see him, again and again….. 

Who can explain it? Who can tell you why?

Fools give you reasons, Wise men never try….

(Lyrics: “Some Enchanted Evening, Broadway Musical, South Pacific)

 

This blogger had the good fortune to meet and get to know a world class physician, an academic, a quiet family man who devoted his former life to his patients and “his girls”, wife Jennifer, and daughters Hayley and Michaela.  The most recognized survivor of crime in the State of Connecticut, a reluctant hero, is the man known as Dr. William Petit, Jr. 

Ladyjustice has hesitated to write anything about this dignified and tormented man.  The media hounds him. The public is well meaning and generous through many charitable events whose proceeds go toward the Petit Family Foundation and the Foundation, in turn, sponsors many activities encompassing the three missions honoring his immediate family.

This tragedy of tragedies has effected the hearts of people throughout the U.S. and internationally. 

Ladyjustice does not want to exploit nor offend in any way shape or manner by offering her humble opinion.  She remains respectful and has tremendous admiration for the remaining survivors of the Petit family.

However, if a local person who occasionally crosses paths with this man, can offer a perspective as a fellow homicide survivor, and perhaps lead others to donate to his Foundation, why not?  

A wise woman named Susan Murphy Milano recently told this blogger that no crime victim would ever view such efforts as exploitation, because, as survivors of crime, we are a family. Our biological families have been torn from us, helping each other and helping future victims keeps us going on the path of justice for others.   So, in that spirit, Ladyjustice will carry on…. 

Connecticut experienced a “wakeup call” of the greatest proportion when this horrific crime occurred on July 23, 2007.  All assumptions about where “crimes like that” occur (and certainly not Cheshire) were shaken to the core.  This crime was the impetus for landmark judicial legislation, rallied people as never before to implement change in attitudes, to be vigilant about personal safety, to buy and install home alarm systems; to reconfigure our Parole & Pardons board, to create a system of sharing vital prisoner histories at all levels of the criminal justice system; to revamp the process for halfway house placements, to “get to know your neighbors” in the form of kindness and neighborhood watches; to initiate numerous scholarships and charitable organizations in the aftermath for the benefit of others who have aspirations “just like the Petit women”;  attempts to keep (and eliminate) the death penalty in Connecticut;  to create and carry out a legacy for their passions  and… for Bill Petit to have as many reasons as possible to carry on without them. (As of today, due to the current economic times, some of these milestones are still a work in progress but alive none the less). 

And now, nearly four years later, the legacy of this family lives on through the constant efforts of Bill Petit his parents, siblings, his  95 year old grandmother and extended family and friends.  

It is a strange kind of purgatory awaiting a trial… as if the trial itself was supposed to take away the past sins of the defendant(s).

(Ladyjustice’s purgatory, awaiting trial for her father’s homicide spanned six years.)  It is this “suspended animation” that wears you down so that by the time the trial is about to commence, you are in a state of mind that perpetuates the wounds and adds further insult to injury. 

This is yet another trying time for the Petit family, currently awaiting the second trial to begin in September for the second defendant, whose name doesn’t deserve the ink, and raises the hairs on everyone’s neck in Connecticut and beyond… 

In 2009, this blogger was in “full court press mode” as the Chairperson assigned to coordinate a huge state agency event held at our State Capitol known as “the BESB Awards and National Observation of White Can Safety Day.”  This event brings together a selected groups of visually impaired or legally blind students and blind adults whose accomplishments over time has served to go above and beyond” in their fields of endeavor or talents in ten categories. 

It is the “Emmy Awards” for the blind community in Connecticut, if you will.   AND, make no mistake…. This is not a demonstration that they can merely perform with their peers while experiencing blindness (and other disabilities).   RATHER, particularly with students, they not only keep up, but often far exceed their sighted peer and are multi-talented in academic and the arts or sports, community affairs, despite their blindness.  No Pity Party Here – Never, Unacceptable!  Most sighted people have no idea what blind individuals and today’s technology can do….  

This event involves coordination of a roster of candidates, nominating committee, contact and invitations with nominees, families, State legislators, municipal officials, the Governor’s office,  catering, facilities management, press releases, TV coverage,  official proclamations, the crafting of a programming script, correspondence, individual bios for nominees, organizing the flow, seating arrangements, entertainment, etc.; etc., AND selection of an appropriate Master of Ceremonies. 

How to get a speaker pro bono, who understands the issues of diabetes and blindness, is committed to the cause and can present in a way that engages the participants?? 

Ladyjustice wrote a personal letter to Dr. Petit explaining her journey with the medical world, personal disability, personal homicide and our agency’s mission and request for a Master of Ceremonies.   ‘A long shot at best, she thought. (Although this blogger’s previous efforts had nearly gotten Mary Tyler Moore twice for this event!)   However, this blogger had more in common with Dr. P. versus MTM. 

Enter Dr. William Petit, Jr….    He could not have been more gracious and apologized for the letter getting lost in the sea of mail.  Long story short, he came to our agency, toured, met with staff, including staff that happens to have MS, and was available for consultations prior to the event. 

Following Ladyjustice’s immense pleasure of introduction, Dr. Petit gave a thorough and thoughtful introduction “prior to his duties”, discussing his work with diabetes research and treatment, his hopes for the future and even read an inspirational narrative in French! 

His MC style was classy, engaging and funny!  He was everything Ladyjustice had hoped for!  He indeed was the man for the job!  And…“the cherry on top of the sundae” was to have Ladyjustice’s mother in attendance, beaming proudly and asking to meet the esteemed Master of Ceremonies!  How perfect!    He was now part of the BESB Family. 

(Post script- Soon to be part of the “New Bureau of Rehabilitation Services” as of July 1st.  So long BESB, a stand alone agency since 1893!) 

Fast forward to June 2011….   The public can read an unusual expose’ of the Petit family story in the June/July edition of Esquire Magazine.  You can’t miss the magazine, which, for some unknown reason chose to include “The Survivor” article with a cover page GQ like male with a woman’s hand suggestively inserted under the man’s belt.  Yikes!  Ladyjustice is no prude!

However, this is not the showcase for a man of his caliber.  A little class please!   I guess, we do what we have to, to serve others for the greater good and let the chips fall where they may, by other tasteless individuals who “just want to sell magazines at any cost.”  

The article begins with a typical event held to raise funds for his Foundation by the many friends and supporters of what was the Petit family foursome, then to a snapshot of his life currently in Plainville, followed by a the sentencing day of the first monster defendant on December 2, 2010. 

It is an account that reminds this writer of a work of fiction, describing glimpses, breathing, gestures, detailed descriptions of clothing, a visceral attempt to “get into his skin.” Ladyjustice is not amused.  This is no fairytale.  Other passages paint a picture of the humanity of what were his former family- stories of his children. 

The torture of being physically bound, seriously wounded and “not knowing, only guessing” what’s going on in the house is portrayed though Dr. Petit’s internal thoughts, back to courtroom testimony, the morning of the Memorial service (Something greater than a private service but less than a full blown extravaganza trying to accommodate the grieving public as well) with a man just out of the hospital trying to hold on. 

The story traverses to the events of the day prior to the murders-the family kind of activities followed by the meeting and courtship days with his wife and lessons he tried to teach his children.  The final pages treat the reader to an insightful account growing up in a working class neighborhood as seen through William Petit, Sr. in a family with several siblings, and Bill described as naturally being a self-starter, a survivor by nature (well worth the read!) 

Could such a normal boyhood existence have prepared this man for his future?  Not a chance….  To be fair, Ladyjustice should ask could anyone write an account that sufficiently covers the landscape of this story? 

It’s doubtful…   Perhaps one or two authors, like Diane Fanning, but very few for sure! 

“What’s if’s” are in the account, those tapes that play over and over in our heads, “had we or others only done things differently”,we might have our family member back in the world of the living.  Ladyjustice advise,  don’t do the “what ifs,” as we have enough self-torture in our lives….  Do the positive things that our family members would have done if they were here now. 

***And please donate to the Petit Family Foundation.  You will find no better reasons to give your time and dollars!

 Link: http://www.petitfamilyfoundation.org/   

 

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